A importância da solitude a dois

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Diferente da solidão, a solitude pode trazer autoconhecimento, fortalecer a individualidade, turbinar a criatividade e recarregar a bateria social. Reservar momentos pra aproveitar a própria companhia também pode fazer toda a diferença em um relacionamento amoroso. E isso é possível até estando fisicamente perto da outra pessoa.

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Abstinência de solitude

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A falta de solitude pode ter uma relação direta com a raiva e as agressões dentro de relacionamentos amorosos. E respeitar as diferenças individuais quanto a essa necessidade pode ter um impacto positivo.

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Se abrir quanto a essa necessidade de passar um tempo na sua própria companhia, deixando claro que “não é você, sou eu”, tem grande chances de tornar a convivência mais prazerosa e madura.

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Minha analista disse que o Andrucha e eu somos casados pra podermos ficar sozinhos. E talvez a gente tenha mesmo se encontrado no fato de que ambos querem ficar sozinhos. São duas solidões acompanhadas.

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Cada um no seu quadrado

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O silêncio é a peça-chave da solitude acompanhada.

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Pra essa modalidade dar certo, é preciso que ambas as partes estejam confortáveis com o silêncio e tenham a mesma necessidade de momentos sem interação. Se não é o caso, vale buscar outras formas simples de encaixar esse tempo na rotina: acordar mais cedo que o outro, sair pra dar uma volta, ter um canto da casa pra se refugiar etc.

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